You think that every day it becomes more difficult to find a partner, then a sense of urgency to fall in love before the rice is over takes hold of you. You start to wonder if you’ve been too demanding and that looking for your soulmate is stupid as a teenager. The important thing is to have someone, whoever it is so that you don’t feel alone. This situation is more and more frequent among people who have been single for a long time and do not feel comfortable in this situation. However, what many overlook is that the worst thing is not feeling alone being alone. The most terrible thing is feeling alone being with someone who does not fill you.
The inability to be alone is sometimes mistaken for love
On many occasions, we get used to being with someone, to a relationship that over time has become empty and we do not realize that we have stopped being in love with that person. We don’t understand why we are not happy if we have everything we could wish for. We confuse the comfort of being in a relationship with love thinking that this is all there is. Giving up for not asking for something more from our relationship, accepting that this is all the love we deserve and being unhappy sharing life with someone who does not fulfill us.
But it is that we do not see ourselves being alone. Singleness has become a stigma and a bachelor in someone who is not so happy because he does not share his life with another person. That is why many people prefer to continue in a relationship that does not make them happy as long as they are not alone, hiding behind a mask of superficial happiness characterized by pleasant moments but deep down there is only loneliness. We continue as a couple because we are not alone but what we are really doing is wasting years of our life with someone who does not complete us and does not make us happy.
How to know if it is love or fear of loneliness?
It is not easy to know if you are in a relationship simply by being with someone or if you are really in love with your partner. Typically, people who cling to a relationship because they are not alone are often codependent. They approach the relationship from the need to be with someone to the fact of sharing a life together.
If you sometimes feel that you share your life with a stranger, maybe it is time to stop and think why you are still in that relationship. Some people put up with couples who are not interested in their projects or care about their well-being. Having a relationship with someone with whom you do not share anything, neither your hobbies nor your worries, and with whom you no longer know what to talk about. In short, you are a ghost to each other. And it is impossible to be happy living with a ghost.
Desperation cannot build a healthy and healthy relationship and there are things that cannot be forced, and love is one of them. Don’t fall into the wrong relationship just out of desperation or in order to avoid loneliness. Look for other types of relationships with friends and family that fill you, and above all, never give up in the search for love and a relationship that makes you truly happy.