In times of isolation, the topic of distance relationships is more current than ever. Is it possible to have a relationship or a marriage with little or no physical contact? Can you build a common life with someone who lives in another city or another country?
The answer from science is positive. At least that of a survey carried out last year by the Center for the Study of Long Distance Relations in the United States, where more than 7 million couples have a relationship that survives thanks to the internet and the telephone. The researchers said that 73% of this type of relationship works. Important information: to work, in this case, was to last more than 6 months.
“For this type of relationship to work, it is necessary, first of all, that there is emotional availability on both sides,” says sexologists. Ask yourself how much you are willing to create that bond.
This answer is important in any relationship, but the distance imposes an even greater commitment and dedication. Next, we give some tips to couples who are far away and who want to make the relationship succeed:
Trust completely
Trust is always the basis for any relationship, but it is the foundation for bringing balance and strength at all times when it comes to distance. Therefore, always have conviction in your love, respecting the feelings that united you. Don’t let nonsense that sometimes parachutes into your thoughts disturb the relationship.
Maintain good communication
Unlike the past, that a letter took months to reach its destination, today it is possible to exchange an instant message when the longing hits. Nowadays, thanks to features like whatsapp, skype, facetime, and so many mobile and social networks or computer applications, everything is easier. You can send text messages, audio messages or talk to the person with the active camera so you can see them and the best: without much cost. So, thank them for being part of globalization, and send them affectionate messages during the day, and at night set aside a time to speak. Keep the custom of sending a good night kiss, for example. Of course, depending on the time difference, this virtual meeting can be at 6:00 am, and why not?
Share and listen to problems
Even far away, you should always tell the day’s problems and get used to sharing the feelings and the difficulties with your partner. Just as they should always try to be present, and give as much attention as they can when the other needs support. This will strengthen your complicity and make the person feel more secure about the stability of the relationship. Even on the most tiring days, take a moment and be understanding.
Surprise
On important dates such as birthdays, Holy Week holidays, or Christmas, send a reminder when you feel like it. Some features make these surprises even easier. There are many websites where you can buy various items, and they ship them wherever you want. But mail remains a very viable alternative, as the cost of sending small things comes at a good price.
Send photos
Whenever you go somewhere and remember him, send him a photo. If you are strolling and come across a poster that reminds you of love or wearing a very special look and want the other to see, send pictures, don’t be ashamed. It is the perfect way for both to be present at certain times, important or casual, when they would like to be together.
Don’t forget: it’s a passing phase
Of course, nobody intends to spend years in this situation. Even if you maintain a relationship with a person who is from another country, it is a temporary and not a permanent situation. It is the natural course of life and of people who love each other. So, whenever you beat that sadness, hold on to that statement, it is a passing phase, and soon you will be together.
